So perhaps I have not made much of it here, or perhaps I have made too much, but the thing is, my mom is not the usual mom. I’ll spare the melodrama of my childhood, but suffice it to say, being a mom was never high on her to-do list.
But now I am 44 years old, and a mom in my own right, and she and my son have this great relationship, which is awesome. The only problem is, she doesn’t call. Nor does she call me back.
Often, I will call, leave a message, and get some sort of reply from her weeks later. It’s frustrating, because I’d like to just say to hell with her, and make her make the first move, only I know she won’t, and it’s not like I’m actively mad at her (got over that awhile ago). Plus, my son likes her, and I don’t want to sever that cord.
So I persevere, calling her, letting her know the weather is warming up so she can visit, telling her there are hotel bargains in Brooklyn if she doesn’t want to stay with us. Still no reply. But really, how hard is it to call your only child back? (Never mind she can’t remember how old I am. Drives me batty).
Apparently it is quite hard.
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Don’t know what to say here except hold onto your sanity and keep doing what you’re doing.
You are a good mom. Because you do this for your son.
CindyS
Maybe not in the returning phone calls aspect, but otherwise, you could be talking about my mother and our relationship. And yet, for the sake of daughter, I keep at it, because both my daughter and my mother deserve to have this grandma-grandie relationship, regardless of how I feel about her and she feels about me. So I try as much as possible to stay out of it and let them chat on the phone.